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lostintranslation · 06-09-2011, 12:35 AM

hey guys..im a newbie here and i was hoping i can get a little help and honest imput.... we've kinda come to a little hurdle in my family with a specific family member... i was wondering what everyone's take was on an interfaith relationship. my sister has been with the "man of her dreams" and her 'perfect match.' hes a great guy, respects her and loves her more then anything in the world. they truly are perfect for eachother...except he's muslim. my parents are completely against the idea here but we know theres an issue, but is it really that big of the deal? i mean it is her relationship and her life. and if the two of them can work something out, why should anyone really step in? or are we being naive to all this? he hasnt asked her to convert, he doesnt want her to and although hes muslim, hes not very religious at all. but wont convert out of respect to his family and faith....what do you guys think?

BONO · 06-09-2011, 06:31 AM

I'm sure the guy is probably a good person, but God is more important in our lives than anything else. God is the Father, God is the Son (Jesus), God is the Holy Spirit. OK, I'm not going to go deep into a religious reason, but until you truly understand who Jesus is, and what he did for us, you will continue to ask questions like these: "why should anyone really step in? or are we being naive to all this?".

I suggest you learn more about your Christian faith and about our Lord Jesus before just saying that "It's her life, and he's a good guy, etc."

Caramel · 06-09-2011, 11:15 AM

I will quote one of my favorite priests who once said 'If they don't get you closer to God, don't marry them'.

There is one God, our Lord Jesus Christ the Savior and the Redeemer.

Any justification that she might have, or that you might have is a fine justification to be friends with the guy. Yes to tolerance, respect, and kindness to people of different faiths, but when it comes to marriage it is 100% different story. When you get married everything changes. You are no longer one person. You are one entity and if there are 2 different faiths then that entity is divided. I could go on...but it's up to them ultimately. Of course they can do what they want, but don't expect both families to be in agreement or to step aside on the issue.

I am really sick of people saying its closed minded to think that its better for Christians to marry Christians. It's open minded - to God. And there is nothing better to be open minded to.

aycarumba · 06-09-2011, 02:34 PM

I'm surprised he doesn't want her to convert. That's not what I usually hear in a Muslim-Christian marriage. Lol If he is SINCERE is a different story. For example, if he is okay with the kids being baptized in church and partaking in Christian traditions like Christmas and Easter, then he is being sincere. He doesn't need to convert, but he needs to respect your sister's religion and practices.

Annie · 06-09-2011, 05:39 PM

To me, it seems like a contradiction on his part to claim he isn't religious and refusing to convert to a different religion in 'respect to his faith.' I am just stuck on this detail.

06-09-2011, 12:35 AM	#1
lostintranslation Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Age: 26 Posts: 1 Rep Power: 0	i need a serious opinion, please..... hey guys..im a newbie here and i was hoping i can get a little help and honest imput.... we've kinda come to a little hurdle in my family with a specific family member... i was wondering what everyone's take was on an interfaith relationship. my sister has been with the "man of her dreams" and her 'perfect match.' hes a great guy, respects her and loves her more then anything in the world. they truly are perfect for eachother...except he's muslim. my parents are completely against the idea here but we know theres an issue, but is it really that big of the deal? i mean it is her relationship and her life. and if the two of them can work something out, why should anyone really step in? or are we being naive to all this? he hasnt asked her to convert, he doesnt want her to and although hes muslim, hes not very religious at all. but wont convert out of respect to his family and faith....what do you guys think?

06-09-2011, 06:31 AM	#2
BONO Vote Emma 4 Prez Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Michigan Posts: 9,106 Rep Power: 19	I'm sure the guy is probably a good person, but God is more important in our lives than anything else. God is the Father, God is the Son (Jesus), God is the Holy Spirit. OK, I'm not going to go deep into a religious reason, but until you truly understand who Jesus is, and what he did for us, you will continue to ask questions like these: "why should anyone really step in? or are we being naive to all this?". I suggest you learn more about your Christian faith and about our Lord Jesus before just saying that "It's her life, and he's a good guy, etc." __________________ "You can get all the help in the world from people and do everything they tell you to do, but if you dont realize that complete submission to God is the ONLY way to start, then you will not escape from this."

06-09-2011, 02:34 PM	#4
aycarumba Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Chi-Town =) Age: 25 Posts: 35 Rep Power: 0	I'm surprised he doesn't want her to convert. That's not what I usually hear in a Muslim-Christian marriage. Lol If he is SINCERE is a different story. For example, if he is okay with the kids being baptized in church and partaking in Christian traditions like Christmas and Easter, then he is being sincere. He doesn't need to convert, but he needs to respect your sister's religion and practices. __________________ XOXO, Leila

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06-09-2011, 11:15 AM	#3
Caramel KATALTA Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 6,517 Rep Power: 13	I will quote one of my favorite priests who once said 'If they don't get you closer to God, don't marry them'. There is one God, our Lord Jesus Christ the Savior and the Redeemer. Any justification that she might have, or that you might have is a fine justification to be friends with the guy. Yes to tolerance, respect, and kindness to people of different faiths, but when it comes to marriage it is 100% different story. When you get married everything changes. You are no longer one person. You are one entity and if there are 2 different faiths then that entity is divided. I could go on...but it's up to them ultimately. Of course they can do what they want, but don't expect both families to be in agreement or to step aside on the issue. I am really sick of people saying its closed minded to think that its better for Christians to marry Christians. It's open minded - to God. And there is nothing better to be open minded to.

06-09-2011, 05:39 PM	#5
Annie Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Chicago Age: 23 Posts: 223 Rep Power: 6	To me, it seems like a contradiction on his part to claim he isn't religious and refusing to convert to a different religion in 'respect to his faith.' I am just stuck on this detail.

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